"When so I ponder, here apart, what shallow boons suffice my heart, what dust-bound trivia capture me,
I marvel at my normalcy."--Dorothy Parker

Sunday, December 30, 2012

christmas, at last

It has been six full days since we attended the live Nativity at the Church of Heavenly Rest on Fifth Avenue to set the tone for our holiday, and, at last, Christmas is beginning to feel complete. Last night big, pillowy snowflakes covered the mud and grass in a clean white blanket and Steve and Violet made plans to build a snowman in the morning. The scent of brown sugar and vanilla filled our rented holiday home as buns, half-cinnamon, half-chocolate, baked in the oven. Steve's stated goal for the week was to bake his way through our trusty King Arthur Flour Baker's Companion, and so he did, making bread in various forms: twists with chocolate and mascarpone, whole wheat bread, cheesy buns, and, today, pretzels. Our waistlines can attest that the week has been a tasty one. We miraculously (really!) found a home on the North Fork of Long Island in which to "play house" for a week, a cool, beautiful, newly renovated place that makes us think of what it might be like if we ever abandoned city life (it never goes beyond thought).




And we deserved it, after weeks of getting our apartment ready for guests, and ourselves ready to get out of their way. We wish never again to spend Christmas Eve and Day frantically cleaning and packing, but there are no guarantees. We thought we had Christmas all figured out a couple of years ago, a leisurely month of tree cutting, music, and outings, and then we added a second end-of-November baby and leisure abandoned us, possibly on a permanent basis. Add to this the likelihood that this was our last Christmas in New York for a while--more on that soon--and there no longer seems to be a point to creating an elaborate tradition. Maybe our tradition will be that we do every Christmas differently, aside from finding a Christmas Fair to peruse, attending a Messiah sing-along sometime in December and a religious service on Christmas Eve, and opening stockings on Christmas morning, all of which we managed to do as usual this year, in spite of the chaos.


It has been a beautiful week, just the four of us holed up here, doing projects and reading stories, the kids laughing and playing together, enjoying being a family. I love these people we have made, and the one I have made them with. We will be glad to be back in our regular life in a week or two, but for this moment, we are going to inhale every last crumb of our holiday.


Proudest parental moment:  Violet's unprompted suggestion that we wait to open presents until we had arrived at the house on Christmas Night. Is it that she has never seen television commercials, and therefore does not believe that new toys make for a happy life? Or was she just born with the desire to delay gratification in favor of something better? If so, I am certain she didn't inherit it from me!

Best entertainment: Watching Townsie dance. That boy has moves, bouncing up and down, sliding his head side to side. He will dance to anything with a beat, from classical to pop, or to the blender, in the absence of something more melodious.

Best quote: 
Violet: (Pointing to the horizon) "What is that? There is some light, then some dark cloud-like things over it."
Us:  "That's the sky."
Violet:  (Pointing again to the horizon) "No, that thing way over there, not straight above us."
Us:  (Noting that there is nothing else to which she could be pointing) "Yeah, that's the sky."

Best reason for living in an aparment: A one-year-old with stairs is nothing but trouble.

Most heartwarming thing ever: Watching our two kids play and laugh together. We thought we couldn't love anything more than having one child, but what do you know...

Saturday, December 8, 2012

eating it up

It is birthday season. We and all the parents we know have autumn babies, and we have been running from party to party non-stop. That is not hyperbole; we're talking three a week, every week. The week after Thanksgiving was our birthday week, with not one but two babies of our own to celebrate.  And did we ever.

Thanksgiving dawned, the calm before the storm, as it were. Casually lying about the house playing with puppets, and a quiet turkey dinner with friends. Steve finally perfected his stuffing recipe. And then...

Party #1 - Officially Five

Let me preface this by saying that we are, at heart, minimalists.  Whether it is out of principle or laziness, we like to keep it simple.  We are still figuring out how to do holiday birthday celebrations, however, and this year Violet benefited from our indecisiveness with not one, but three, birthday parties. 

On her actual birthday, she woke up to gifts from us and her grandparents (including an adorable kitty cat dress her daddy bought her in Milan), followed by a late lunch in the food hall downstairs at The Plaza, with crepe cake at Lady M and a walk down Fifth Avenue to look at the Christmas windows. As always, she had dressed so as to be ready to be part of the show...





Party # 2 - The Birthday Party

We had planned for a handful of friends and a carousel in Brooklyn, but Hurricane Sandy put a stop to both the carousel and the ferry that would get us there. Added to that, our darling daughter had a new best friend at school every day (and a big mouth), and before we knew it we were taking the whole class, as well as all our favorite old friends, to see Wreck It Ralph, preceded by cupcakes in her classroom at school.  This is the one time of the year I bake cupcakes from scratch, and this year's were angel food topped with whipped cream, flavored with lots of vanilla and a dash of orange water.  Mmmm.



Party #3 - The Cakes

Violet had sweetly begged to wait to have her birthday cake until Townsie's birthday, so that they could have them together, one large, one small. Good thing, because one cake was not enough for this boy. Once he had polished off his own, he went for hers, and didn't stop until the table had been cleared. We think he has a future as a competetive eater. Many friends were there to witness the show, and we were grateful for the circle of friends we have been blessed with here.



But my favorite moment of the day was earlier, after Townes and I dropped Violet off at school. We stopped at Alice's Tea Cup for a quiet birthday breakfast, just the two of us. He made quite a handsome date.


I am so thankful for these beautiful babies. And we are never doing a week like this one again.  Next year, a quiet family dinner.  That is it!

Thursday, November 15, 2012

golden boy

can't get enough of this almost-toddlerhood.  If I have disappeared from the blogosphere in the last couple of months, it is because baby is on the move, and he never moves faster than when he sees my hands on a laptop or a smartphone. I have had no choice but to unplug and live in the moment. What a blessing! This is such a golden age, and so short that if I blink I may miss it. The way he says "Bop!" as his punchline for every joke, or "That!" with an emphatically pointed finger, or most recently, "Baa Baa!" staring at the door longingly.  The way he pants like an excited puppy as he cruises around the door's frame from the living room to the vestibule and pauses outside the bathroom door, bouncing as he stands precariously against the closet doors.  The way he blows strawberries on my neck in complete earnestness, not understanding why the rest of us are dissolving into peals of laughter.  

The look he and his sister get the moment the other enters the room, as if he and she are the most fascinating people on earth.  The way he cuddles up and melts into my chest.  The way he giggles when I kiss his soft, round cheeks.  The intense focus in his expression as he watches us do the most ordinary things, things that are completely unprecedented in his experience.  The way he watches trees, birds, dogs...any living thing.  The way he hogs tv remotes and begs to touch anything that resembles a control button.  The soft, wide open, puckerless kisses he lands on my face.  The golden haze that seems to settle around him when he is curled on his tummy, fast asleep. Those fat little thighs and feet and fingers.  The two top teeth that grow larger every single day.  

His smile when we gently bump our foreheads together. The gusto with which he consumes even the most experimental concoctions. The way he sits in his high chair with a dishtowel over his head, turning from side to side and breathing in delighted anticipation for the moment he will yank it off in a wordless peek-a-boo. The nervous laughter that suggests he wants what I am eating. The coos, squeals, chirps, and grunts that will disappear when words become his primary form of communication. 

The way he makes our family feel more complete than it did one year ago. The way watching him become a boy brings sudden comprehension of my husband, and every other man I know. The concentration with which he lets go of the leather pouf, his favorite support (besides me), and takes two or three confident steps before sinking gracefully to the floor. The way he looks at me like I am the most beautiful, most important person on earth. That sweet, incredible little spirit that shines out of those eyes that have turned from blue to grey. I could go on...and on...and on...

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

the costumes


We braved the preliminary winds to do a little pumpkin carving at Jane and Kai's while we waited for the storm to arrive but, thanks to Sandy, our Halloween celebration was a more subdued one that we had anticipated having. There was trick-or-treating with friends on Carnegie Hill, but all other activities were postponed until the following week, if they happened at all. Nevertheless, costumes were worn (a violet and a bee), candy was eaten, and a class party was had. We were grateful our lights were on and we had food in the refrigerator and gas in the car. We even got to have Daddy working from home for a week. It wasn't all bad.

Friday, September 28, 2012

september photo album

School started and we were off...
Picnicking in Central Park with new school friends
Looking at the ducks
Playing in the Conservatory Gardens during afternoon tea
Goldilocks stopping to visit friends on her way to see Andy Warhol at the Met
Happening upon amazing feats in the park during a Sunday afternoon stroll
Breakfasting at Balthazar with my favorite baby boy at the beginning of a day of shopping in Soho (can you spot us?)

Chillin' with Townsie & his Mini Me
Our favorite building, with a trompe l'oeil mural & grisaille gargoyles, which Violet has to stop and look at every single day
My view for at least two hours a day
Oh, so close to standing, and proud of it
Hangin' with favorite girlfriends
Balloon envy
Scooting to school
Just try and keep up!

Saturday, September 22, 2012